Veto the LIKE button – for a day!


The other day my seventeen year old daughter said to me that a friend of hers who had posted a video on youtube said to her.
‘Why didn’t you LIKE my video?”
My daughter replied…
“I TOLD you I liked it. Why do I have to press the like button?”

What IS it with this frantic collecting of LIKES these days?
It’s as though they’re coupons with some sort of prize attached.
A popularity contest of who can gather the most LIKES.
They have become so much a part of our online world and I just have to wonder at what this all really means as far as connecting people, communication, and the value of online “relationships”.

Is the LIKE button another sign of societies “disconnect” or is it simply an innocent, helpful little icon?

Imagine this.
What would happen if for one whole day everyone stopped pressing the “LIKE” button…here on wordpress, on facebook, youtube, soundcloud, community forums, or wherever a LIKE button exists?

Instead, what if people actually typed what was in their heads…the thing, the feeling, the thought, the reaction to something that someone has written, or photographed, sung or played, CREATED, often a complete stranger…someone you may never have come in physical contact with, not in a million years – strangers with lives so far away, so different, (yet often so much the same), were it not for the Internet.
All these things – reactions to what we see and hear, coming from our hearts and minds (and souls) which steers, with oh such rampant regularity, that little finger of ours right over there to that innocuous button in the corner that simply BEGS to be pressed.


“Press me, press me….for I am the magic button that eases all the worries in the world, makes friends, gives acknowledgment, praise, encouragement. The button that says YES, I agree with you, or YES, I feel equally as outraged, or YES, I understand you, YES I will do that or YES I can relate to you, find that touching, enjoyable, funny, profound, sad, beautiful, exciting, amazing…. For I am the amazing superhero button – can’t you see my cape? – that says so many things, connects so many people, expresses so many deep and meaningful inner most thoughts and emotions just with four little letters….. “


What if….. by actually typing “something” rather than “Liking” something, you actually said something – deeper….Expressed something a little MORE. Connected – a little more?
Do you WANT that?
What is it people want?

It can’t be that you’re too busy to write something, are not eloquent, can’t think of what to say….even one word would suffice. “Great!”…” Funny!”….”Terrible”…..
I mean, one word says so much more than just a watered down “like”, doesn’t it???

Oh….PLEASE don’t think that here, on my blog, or anywhere else, that I am criticizing anyone for using the LIKE button.
I have become conditioned to press that little button, again and again and again!

Why do I do it?
I do it because I FEEL something, and I want to acknowledge something, but perhaps, if I’m truthful, I am just lazy because I know, I can’t help but ramble.
If I rambled a reply to everyone, my God, I’d be here at this screen all day.

But still.
Oh….I am just filled with this feeling of disillusionment right now.
Of how the world has become….is becoming.
Phones glued to people’s heads….glued in their hands.
Screens, screens and more screens.
The more I look around the more the word “Zombies” keeps popping into my head.

Technology… media…the world becoming a smaller place? – people connecting from all over the world? (Are we really?)

And yet….
There is this sense of, guardedness in this new domain of “online”…That’s not the word I’m looking for, exactly.
I’m not sure what I’m trying to say.
We’re coming together yet we’re coming apart.
The fabric of society, of community, of relationships, of RELATING to one another is changing, has changed.
These screens provide convenient distancing.
We’re all elusive strangers dancing in the shadows furtively pressing like buttons.

I don’t mean to make you feel guilty, or have a conundrum over pressing the like buttons of life.
It’s perfectly OK, if you do, I do, we do…. I think they have a place.
But just as it’s probably ok to occasionally have a meal at Macdonalds, it’s not really conducive to overall health to eat it every day. Maybe that’s a bad analogy, but it came to mind….(you KNOW I am a rambler.)

I just want to make you think, as I have been thinking too.
Really, that’s all.

Each time I see that LIKE button, I’m thinking – “What if it just didn’t exist? Would I be saying nothing, or would I be saying SOMETHING?”
Do I really want to reach out to that person, or not?
If I said “something”, would it change anything – for me, or them?
Would it be more or less appreciated than a simple “LIKE”?

Questions, questions….

Why don’t you try it, for a day, if you’re inclined.
Veto the like button.
See what happens?
Maybe just one thing someone says, or you say, could change something?

About Tracy Lundgren

I am a people watcher,life observer, nature lover, spiritual seeker loving this crazy wild ride that life is taking me on. I am still a blank piece of paper waiting to be filled and that is good.
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20 Responses to Veto the LIKE button – for a day!

  1. I am so not pushing the Like Button – I do both, I comment or speak what is in my mind and hit the stupid button – as you say we are conditioned to do things over time, the like button on WP – oh no it wasn’t hit therefore it won’t show in my stats – I mean what is that all about in the scheme of things. Sadly technology is racing ever forward, it’s nice to not be one of the sheep – so for your post, I wrote this reply and disregarded the like button πŸ™‚ …doesn’t mean I will be that way tomorrow.. baaaaah πŸ˜‰

    • desertrose7 says:

      Good for you! It feels liberating doesn’t it! πŸ™‚
      No, but you almost always comment. Which is lovely. It means I feel as though I am more connected to you.
      I don’t know, maybe it’s just me, but I LIKE that! lol!

  2. maximum9510 says:

    Commenting and actually ‘ verbalising ‘ rather than taking the lazy LIKE way is definitely more respectful and supportive x

  3. Kudos. Yes I do have a lame excuse for every “Like” button I have ever hit.
    More important is the question regarding how it appears that human nature
    and the interaction between people has changed with the advent of technology
    that allows instant worldwide communications.
    Is it for the better is it for the worse ??? The ” Like Button” will not give us the answer.
    Keep on rambling, no answer was ever found that did not begin with a good question,

    ” To Push or not to Push, what will be your answer ??? ”

    Love, hugs and prayers…ME and the Boss

    • desertrose7 says:

      He SPEAKS!!! πŸ˜‰

      That is a good question. IS it for the better or the worse?
      I reckon it’s both.
      Nothing comes without a negative side…does it?
      I may just have to blog about that.
      Thank you for getting my mind working!

  4. utesmile says:

    I saw this sign apparently in a Dublin cafe: We don’t have WIFI, talk to each other!
    that speaks for itself.
    Still without all this technology I wouldn’t be able to read your blog now. Mind you the LIKE button is anothe matter.

    • desertrose7 says:

      Love it! There should be “Phone free zones” too!
      Actually here in Sydney we now have “Quiet carriages” on trains, so people aren’t allowed to have loud cell phone conversations in those. Unfortunately nobody speaks to each other either though.
      Darn it….I just want to TALK to people like I used to, BEFORE technology came along.
      But yes…it has been a good thing in some ways.

  5. Ralph says:

    Ooops. My mistake. I was going to veto the like button as you suggest Tracy but I just could not resist liking this post. So I am a sad person, a likeaholic. No hope I’m afraid πŸ˜‰ Ralph xox πŸ˜€

  6. I Am Jasmine Kyle says:

    I like the like button. I think there are people who come read your blog post. . . you never hear from them. Like buttons and comment sections allow your readers to interact with you more. I think if your looking to make a real connection with someone it helps brake the ice. Just my opinion!

    • desertrose7 says:

      This is true Jasmine….if they follow up at some point with a comment.
      I don’t know. I just enjoy blabbering, and having others blabber back.
      But it’s true…sometimes a like button can come in handy. I find poetry particularly hard to comment on. It’s a bit like art to me. Sometimes I don’t even know what it is I like about it- but I enjoy something about it, so a LIKE button kind of just expresses that I enjoyed it.

      • I Am Jasmine Kyle says:

        LOL I do that with REALLLLLLLY long posts. I have a 3 year old I can’t pee with out interruption so I’ll TRY to read it but FAIL and just like.
        I find them great ice breakers! Some are not as outgoing as we two!

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