A mixed bag blogger.

“Sometimes I don’t know whether to laugh , cry, or howl at the moon.” – is something I impulsively wrote on my facebook page the other day.
It pretty much sums up my (day…hour…) life – and my blog.

Somehow I will tie this in with the post I am about to write, and I am writing it because this morning the first blog of one of my followers I read was this.

http://righttobitch.com/2012/11/21/art-blogging-vs-conversational-blogging/

(Sorry, I cannot for the life of me work out how to add links to a blog – if someone knows and is kindly able to tell me I would be very appreciative.)

I read Adams post with interest, because I like Adam and I always enjoy his posts and he was the one that gave me a diagnosis for my teenage daughters problem “Irritable mouth syndrome” and for that alone I REALLY like Adam.

In his blog today, “Art blogging vs Conversational blogging.”  he speaks of, well, I guess his underlying intention is to help others with their  blogging, because he seems like a pretty nice guy.
And I think too, he was just mulling it all over in his head?
But I have a problem with one or two things he wrote, because it kind of made me feel like there might be “rules” when it comes to writing a blog -particularly your intention is to attract hoards of followers.

I’ve read kind of similar posts before, more like – “how to blog” type posts, which by the way is NOT how Adam wrote his piece. His was much more thoughtful, not preachy at all, and well worth the read because it makes you think, and ponder many things.
The evidence is here – in me feeling inspired to write about it..leading me to self analyze why I’m here, spending all this time – writing. (thank you!)

Adam speaks of Art blogs where people can simply look at a beautiful photo or piece of artwork, be moved by it, LIKE it, and then quickly move on, (Hey and I like those. Life gets busy, people have no clean underwear and socks to wear because I have important things to do, like blog, and read blogs.) and he speaks of conversational blogs that I guess are more the sorts of things designed to elicit comments, and conversation.

I guess I got the feeling (and I could be wrong?) that he was contemplating that you might have to make a choice about what sort of blog you want to write?  You know, perhaps so you don’t confuse your followers? So they know what they’re getting? Which I guess, does kind of make sense?

I started to answer his post by asking… “But what if you are a mixed bag? A multi personality blogger?”
Maybe you are a photographer, a writer, a painter, a pole dancer, a chicken sexer….and you want to write or post about ALL those things.

It reminds me a little of being a songwriter and being told – “You can’t write in ALL genres. It will confuse people. Stick to one style of music.”
Um, sorry, but that’s impossible because one day I feel like laughing, the next crying, and today – howling at the moon – my songs reflect that.  (See, I knew I’d be able to tie it in.)

And it made me feel like, oh shit, once again here comes a box and I can’t quite squeeze my lumpy butt into it.
Adam, I know that wasn’t your intention, but you can’t predict how paranoid, insecure, TOO DEEP THINKING people, with big old lumpy butts like me, who have box aversion disorder, are going to run off and dissect something in their heads.

Another thing he spoke of was engaging followers, readers, by asking a question at the conclusion of, or within, a post.
To tickle their fancy – give them a voice, everyone likes to talk about themselves, it’s just human nature.
(We are all both exhibitionists and voyeurs, and many strange things in-between.)
I think this is very good advice. Don’t we all want to feel united? Bonded in some way by the experience of blogging about something we can all relate to on some level, and having others respond?
I’ve read this before, in more serious “How to be a successful blogger!” posts. “Engage your audience” stuff.
Hey, and I tentatively tried it a few times, but you know what, I felt like a total FAKE.
Almost like …”hey…I want you to like me…be my friend….follow me…pleeeeease.”
I don’t know how to do that, without feeling like an idiot. Especially if no one makes a comment, then it’s kind of like you’re standing in a room and you’ve just said something AMAZING and suddenly everyone needs to go and get a drink.

Awkward!

Pondering over this I’m wondering whether the aim could be, to write posts that don’t ask any questions at all, but simply move or inspire people WITHOUT an obvious question, to want to write something or like something in response.

Reminds me of something a friend once told me when writing songs.
“Sometimes there is a train, but you don’t need it to say “Choo choo!” in order for people to KNOW it’s a train.”

So, as I’m feeling my way through this new and interesting blogging world I am coming to some conclusions here.

I’ll probably never have 102 576 followers, or miles and miles of comments streaming down the page into my lap, and I may lose followers frequently with my schizophrenic rambles, but that is who I am.

A mixed bag blogger.

I’m not here to sell anything, though you may see pictures of my candles, links to my music or video’s. Click or ignore as you wish.
I’m not even here to become a better writer (though that IS something I strive to be.)so I can go on and sell a book and be known as a REAL, and very COOL writer.

I guess why I’m blogging, is simply to get stuff OUT of my washing machine head, and if in the process I strike a nerve with anyone who is nice (or loony) enough to have decided to stalk me, then I am ecstatic!

I’m also here to stalk other people, like Adam, because I am a voyeur at heart and I enjoy finding out what other peoples lives, desires, perceptions and life experiences are all about. And have a good laugh.

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So why are YOU here?

HA! Kidding.

Go get your drink now, you probably need one.

PS. This is my favourite post of Adam’s.

http://righttobitch.com/2012/09/23/5-creative-ways-to-avoid-small-talk/

Sorry, I told you I was link challenged. Technically spastic is my middle name.

You’ll just have to copy and paste.

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About Tracy Lundgren

I am a people watcher,life observer, nature lover, spiritual seeker loving this crazy wild ride that life is taking me on. I am still a blank piece of paper waiting to be filled and that is good.
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15 Responses to A mixed bag blogger.

  1. Miriam E. says:

    first off, hats off to you for this amazing post. i do the same thing you do – write to just sort through the chaos in my head. different style, but same story.

    the linking is not so difficult. when you want to link something, you just copy the link, then type a word/phrase you want the link to be called into your text window. you highlight that word, then click on the little ‘chain’ icon at the top in your menu (next to the align text section – if you hover your mouse over it, it says insert/edit link). after you clicked on it, a little window will pop up where you can paste the copied link address (it says URL). after you’ve done that, simply click on ‘add link’ (at the bottom of the little window) and you’re done. link ready.
    hope this was clear enough… getting late over here and i’m trying not to trip over my drooping eyelids. hope i could help!

    • desertrose7 says:

      Thank you Miriam 🙂 I will try again with the link thing (I know I’ve seen the chain icon and clicked on it, and everything else that seems appropriate, but to no avail. I
      ll have another go. )
      I just noticed a gorgeous photo of an empty bench on your blog. I have a “thing” for empty benches. They make me feel something – just the way they look.

  2. Adam S says:

    Dude, first off, thank you for the praise! You rock and you know it.

    There are absolutely no rules. Let’s get that straight right off the bat. That wasn’t the motivation for the article. Don’t internalize it. Like I said, people write for different reasons, and *there’s nothing wrong* with any of those reasons.

    I’ve been studying other people on WordPress since I started doing this, and I’ve been paying close attention to what they do in order to drive people to their sites. It’s key to pay attention to those things IF and ONLY IF you want to drive traffic to your site. It’s kind of like strategic marketing. Speaking for myself, I love interacting with people through my page. How else would we have met? Since meeting, look at how much we’ve been able to share with each?

    Some people would prefer to record their thoughts, or write poetry — whatever suits there fancy. That’s a-ok. That’s what it’s supposed to be about — writing for “you”.

    Keep doing what your doing.

    I have to laugh at the irony here. For all of the offensive things that I’ve said in the past three months, you’ve internalized the only post that was meant to help — not hurt. That was actually my *real* voice. Take from it what you value, and dump the rest in the trash.

    Can we still be friends? 🙂 Interested to get your *feedback*!!!

    • desertrose7 says:

      Of course we’re still friends. 🙂 Seriously, I’ve been muling over my intentions for starting this blog – wondering why the heck I’m writing, and what the purpose of it is and today you just made me think a little deeper about it all.
      The thing is, it’s very much like songwriting. I always say “A song without ears is a lonely thing.” I suppose it’s like anything creatively expressive – no point doing it without an audience to “receive” it really is there? But like songwriting, I get frustrated with myself for my inability to conform – or maybe it’s just I create boxes for MYSELF. There ya go, now that’s deep (or just weird.)
      You should realise by now Adam, that my favourite hobby is overthinking. 🙂

      • desertrose7 says:

        Um, that was mulling…not muling. Hee haw!

      • Adam S says:

        I admire that you’re a deep thinker — I am too. It’s a virtue. It’s true, a song without ears is a lonely thing, but you’re wrong about the “no point in doing it” part. Completely wrong. You should always do what makes you feel good for you. Fuck opinions.

        My real life is growing pretty empty. Maybe I’m just trying to fill a void. When I started this, I wanted to find people that were more like me — not like the people around me in my real life. The people I surrounded myself in real life with are polar opposites. Many are insensitive, disrespectful, etc. It’s a journey for me. A goal — to find “real” people. I’m finding them everyday. I think you long for the same. Keep writing. Keep doing it. It will all unfold…

        p.s. More music please!!

    • desertrose7 says:

      Thanks Adam. Yeah, I’m totally into “real” too, and yes, you are right, I am searching for the same sort of things as you I think.

  3. Miriam E. says:

    since i have no freakin idea why i can’t respond to the comments above – empty benches, would Love to read something about that! 🙂

  4. Dan says:

    Okay, I admit it. I’m stalking you because I’m into lumpy butts. 😛

    “Don’t internalize it”.
    Tell her again Adam.

    Maybe you might try to reduce your thinking lady and just BE.

    Now i do think your youngest daughter (singing the lead) and you should do a (video) song parity of the 1960s hit
    “You Talk Too Much” with one minor verb change.
    Here are the parity lyrics below.
    Did anybody say, “have fun”? 😉

    You Talk Too Much – Joe Jones from 1960

    You think too much
    You worry us to death
    You think too much
    You even worry our pet

    You just think
    Think too much

    You think about people
    That you don’t know
    You think about people
    Wherever you go

    You just think
    Think too much

    You think about people
    That you’ve never seen
    You think about people
    You can make us scream

    You just think
    You think too much

    ——————————–

    You think too much
    You worry us to death
    You think too much
    You even worry our pet

    You just think
    Think too much

    You think about people
    That you don’t know
    You think about people
    Wherever you go

    You just think
    Think too much

    You think about people
    That you’ve never seen
    You think about people
    You can make us scream

    You just think
    You think too much

  5. The Landy says:

    Crikey, I just write about what happens in our lives, sure it is a story of climbing mountains and carrying on like a nutter, but that is how we live our lives.

    Let me tell you, I enjoy reading your stuff, look for it everyday. Call it as it is, that what us Aussies do, strewth, and don’t we do it well…

    Don’t change sweetie, we love mad people in our lives, we kind of feel at home!

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