On the edge of my patience. (Watching movies with ones spouse.)

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Watching movies with my husband can be the most frustrating thing out.
We have different tastes for a start…
I love tense, on the edge of your seat psychological thriller movies.
My favourite movie of all time, I think, is “The edge” with Anthony Hopkins.
That bear in the movie just had me riveted, terrified….the thought of it…Plus I enjoyed Hopkins character and the psychological aspect of the plot.

The movies I watch, for the most part are quiet affairs, subliminal messages… little allusions to facts.
Subtle “get you thinking” clues….
Movies that shake your mind.
Yeah, sometimes disturbingly so, but there’s that dark side to me again.

While I enjoy a good comedy every once in a while I’m definitely not into “chick flicks”. Hate feel good lovey dovey movies (for the most part) and I really don’t enjoy sad movies because I don’t just get a tear in my eye, I bawl the ugly cry.
Hachi -tale about a dog, did that to me. I had to watch it alone. Oh misery…I cried like a baby.

Which reminds me….”Misery” was another favourite film of mine.

My husband likes to watch what I call “testosterone movies.”
You know, the ones with Sylvester Stallone and Claude Van Damme – those sorts.
If a building hasn’t exploded, or someone hasn’t been blown up in the first ten seconds of the movie my husband begins fidgeting.
“It’s a bit slow….” he says.
Sometimes the opening credits are still rolling…
“It’s a bit slow….”

The movies he watches are full of macho posturing.
Guns, fighting, full speed car chases with vehicles doing IMPOSSIBLE things and these macho men surviving IMPOSSIBLE scenarios.
They are loud, frantic with very little dialogue and they make me feel anxious and aggressive.
(Don’t tell me violence in movies can’t influence peoples mental states!)

The best way to confuse my husband is to throw in a dream scene.
He just doesn’t understand the concept of when a scene flips to an imaginary scene.
“What’s going on?” he says, all fluffed up and frazzled.
“I don’t get it. I’m lost….are you following this?”
Yes…..trying to! Shut up and watch.
He doesn’t seem to understand that sometimes subtle clues need to unfold, slowly and gently for the big picture to make sense.
He panics at the first sign of guesswork.

He also doesn’t like it when in the beginning of the movie characters have to be formed.
The background stuff….The getting to understand the gist of who this character is going to be and what the story is going to be based on.
What? Five seconds in and nobody’s head has exploded yet?
Mercy me…
“It’s a bit slow….”

He’ll even doze off in a movie…if not enough people are being slaughtered, not enough explosions or cars flying off bridges…
Then he’ll wake up…
“What’s happening…I don’t get it…I’m not following this!”

Sigh…

But I have to say, THE worst part of watching a movie with my husband is when the movie ends.
I dread it.
It happens every time, without fail….
Here it comes….the closing scene.
It’s at this moment my husband gets really UPSET! Angry even.
I mean, like he’s just received the biggest personal insult ever.

“You’ve GOT to be kidding me!” he exclaims.
“What a STUPID ending! Oh I can’t believe I just wasted two hours of my life…..for it to end like THAT!”
“Biggest load of shite!”
He really gets infuriated ,and this is always followed by….
“Well, they have to make part TWO now. They just HAVE to!”

He doesn’t seem to comprehend that a movie script can only go for an hour and a half, two hours max…
Therefore, no….we don’t get to find out who she eventually marries, how well he healed after being shot, how many kids they both had together. Don’t get to see the whole happily ever after thing….or the funeral, or the next generation grow up.
No!
The movie ends….the budget ended, and for the most part we just have to keep guessing!
Use our imaginations.
Make up the rest in our own heads.
Duh!

Last night we watched a movie called “The grey”.
A little like “The edge” but with wolves, and without a clever psychological plot.
Seven men survive a plane crash in Alaska only to be stalked by wolves…
It was ok…edge of your seat moments. The wolves looked totally fake, but still, it was the IDEA of the scenario. Survival.

So, we got to the final scene…
It’s just one man left….The main character of course.
The whole movie is about him, his emotional struggles. His dance with death –
Subtly the movie depicts him as a man who feels dead while he is alive…
Throughout the movie we hear him talking of a poem his father wrote.

“Once more into the fray…
Into the last good fight I’ll ever know
Live and die on this day
Live and die on this day”

Finally he gets prepared to fight the Alpha wolf…
It’s a big moment.
Tense….you see his eyes, as piercing as the wolfs….
You see the wolfs eyes….
They leap at each other and then the screen goes blank.

“Oh my God! ” my husband exclaimed.
“How could you make me watch this shite, with such a STUPID STUPID ending!”
Wait for it…..
“They need to make a second part now!”

I’m laying on the bed laughing….
How do *I* know how the movie is going to end?

‘How would YOU have ended the movie?” I asked, amused.

“I don’t know….either the wolf wins, or the man wins….Not this nothing, where we just don’t KNOW!”

You see, he didn’t GET it.
It wasn’t about who won the fight.

The point was …. (what I perceived)
At that moment….in his final stance with the wolf, he at last felt truly ALIVE.
“LIVE and die on this day.”

When do we TRULY feel alive?
So many of us don’t.
So many of us walk around like robots, dead and we don’t even know it.

Anyway…
So I’m open to suggestions.
I’m in the mood for a really good edge of your seat, get your mind ticking over, psychological thriller.
I don’t care how it ends.
I’ll cope.
My husband won’t.

Any really GOOD movies you’ve watched lately?

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About Tracy Lundgren

I am a people watcher,life observer, nature lover, spiritual seeker loving this crazy wild ride that life is taking me on. I am still a blank piece of paper waiting to be filled and that is good.
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17 Responses to On the edge of my patience. (Watching movies with ones spouse.)

  1. Dan says:

    LMAO 😆
    Good choice of photos.
    I’m assuming that you didn’t watch Marley & Me.
    My wife and I had gone to see that movie not knowing what the plot was about, just a month or so after we had to put our 14 yearold lab Winston down.
    I will NEVER EVER put another dog down again.
    And I don’t care what anyone says about never saying never.
    I will be taking that horrendous emotion to the grave with me. (Forgive me Winston).
    Sorry, where was I?
    Oh yes, subliminal messages vs. testosterone.
    I can’t even remember the last movie that we saw together.
    Oh yes, it was Avatar in 3D IMax. She got sick and I was still riding high the next day from feeling as though i was in the movie itself.
    I have to admit, I sometimes say the same thing as your husband does at the end of some movies. WTF

    Let’s see, how about “Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil”? Clint Eastwood directed it. Yeah, maybe not enough cogliones for the old man.

    How about “2001: A Space Odyssey”? The ending of that one might cause the old man to have a stroke.
    I did love the travel sequence near the end though. If you do watch it, please say hi to Hal for me.

    How about a John Travolta movie, Phenomenon? Nah, still not enough blood and guts hey?
    He’d probably go for Pulp Fiction, right?

    Does the old man like comedies? I just watched a rerun of Tootsie which I loved lots, probably for the music as well as the film.

    Not very current I know. You’re a funny insightful lady. I’m sure you’ll think of something that the old man will also like. 😉

    Time for me to lolly off to dreamland. Wonder if it’ll be a full lenght feature tonight. 😕

    • desertrose7 says:

      Don’t think I’ve seen Marley and me, but maybe I have?
      It is always something you take to the grave. 😦
      I might try Midnight in the garden of good and evil…. Phenomenon? Hmm, rings a bell.
      I’ll google them.

      • Dan says:

        How about Ronin, with Robert DeNiro and an international cast. Just saw a rerun a couple of hours ago. I’m sure you’ll make points with the old man on this one as there are lots of car chase scenes and enough blood. Takes place mostly in France and the cinematography is excellent. Not exactly a psychological drama but a drama none the less. You might say WTF at the end of this one. 😕

  2. Hahaha! Your holy matrimony is always a favorite of mine . Sitting on the bed and laughing .. I found it cute.

    I liked ‘Pure’ & ‘Girl, Interrupted’ . Not so muh with on the edge moments , sorta. Mostly stomach wrenching and what the hells wrong with humanity.

    • desertrose7 says:

      Glad you enjoy reading of the frustrations, and comedy of marriage. If you can’t laugh well….(Just as well he doesn’t have his own blog! ) 🙂
      Haven’t heard of “Pure”….but I’ve seen Girl interrupted showing on foxtel.
      Thanks! I’ll start a list of potentials.
      Last saturday night was riveting. Hubby found some movie which turned out to be like from some religious channel. (No idea why he chose it!) Not knocking religious movies but this was SOOOO badly acted – stick your finger down your throat CORNY that I left the room in disgust.
      This is what my saturday nights have come down to?
      God…I need a life.

      • Lol! Oh he would make such a bloger for rating movies , with his aid we’ll all be back out in the street and being 3D people again. Ah Pure is about a 10 year old boy whose mom is addicted to heroin and she doesn’t realize the damage she has on him so she keeps disappointing him. Good movie, only thing that stopped me from slapping her through the tv was how much he loved her anyway.
        Hahahaha! And the Simon Cowell of movies accepted the corn? Impossible action flicks or corny moral stories ..toughie.
        Family time they say.. yup this is life.

      • Lol! Oh he would make such a bloger for rating movies , with his aid we’ll all be back out in the street and being 3D people again. Ah Pure is about a 10 year old boy whose mom is addicted to heroin and she doesn’t realize the damage she has on him so she keeps disappointing him. Good movie, only thing that stopped me from slapping her through the tv was how much he loved her anyway.
        Hahahaha! And the Simon Cowell of movies accepted the corn? Impossible action flicks or corny moral stories ..toughie.
        Family time they say.. yup this is life.

  3. Haven’t seen The Edge but will try.
    Hachi- I bawled like a baby.
    Misery – Yes loved.

    Have you seen Mystic River?

  4. oops forgot it would take up such a large space – view if you want then delete 😦 sorry

  5. Tasneem says:

    Some movies that you might like but are kind of old are: Mind Hunters, Identity, Se7en.
    Those are just at the top of my head. I really like Identity, those kinds of movies are my favourite. Thriller/suspense all the way 😉

    • desertrose7 says:

      Oh good! Glad I’ve found a fellow thriller fan 🙂
      I know I’ve seen Se7en….Mind hunters sounds familiar…I’ll google Identity. Doesn’t sound like one I’ve seen yet. Some of the oldies are good ones!
      Thanks!

  6. Ralph says:

    I went off testosterone movies a few years back. Nowadays the same sets, disused factories or corridors of pipes, fake explosions and 3G effects.
    I enjoy Whoopi Goldberg films such as “Ghost” or “Sister Act”.
    “Carry On” movies have always been a favourite of mine. 😀

  7. Miriam E. says:

    oh Tracy, thank you for reciting the poem!
    i, too watched ‘the grey’ and totally forgot about this poem – until now. it made my eyes water – that scene is so intense.

    p.s.: if your hubby gets on your nerves, watch ‘Memento’ (that’s the one: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0209144/) with him… it will drive him insane. heh…
    one of the best movies i’ve ever seen…

    • desertrose7 says:

      Ooh, I’ve seen it! Yes it was a good one – and it WOULD drive hubby nuts, lol!
      I really liked that final scene in “the grey”. It was perfect that the scene simply closed, and you were left to imagine what would happen. Guessing. Hoping!
      I don’t think my husband GETS poems…Roses are red violets are blue is about his limit. 😉

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