I resisted creating a facebook account for years, sick of hearing facebook this and facebook that…and having people ask me “How come you’re not on facebook?”. It was like some sort of cult….some mass following, and I usually resist these things just because “everyone is doing it!”
It was only when our second eldest daughter traveled overseas that my husband and I finally set our accounts up so we could keep in contact.
I’m having thoughts now of deleting my account and becoming one of the facebookless few.
Why? Because it’s a farce. There is nothing of substance on facebook that interests me.
I know, I’m insulting friends and family by saying that but really for the most part what people (Including myself) post are very shallow, not very informative and not very interesting.
Facebook seems to be one long list of cute/silly/mildly amusing captioned pictures.
It’s very rare that someone will actually post something of substance, something enlightening, or revealing about their actual LIFE and personality.
Of course, people probably don’t because they are well aware of the fact that they are putting it out there for the masses to see, and because so many people seem to think that facebook is some kind of popularity contest, so they add every random person that they have ever had even the briefest contact with, in order to make their friends list positively bulge….Well, it backfires doesn’t it, because then you are cautious about WHAT you post.
And besides….can you really trust facebook’s privacy controls? Really?
What’s more, facebook is geared up for non readers by only allowing you to post a very tiny chunk of text before it decides this is taking up too much space and says “read more”.
Oh I understand the premise of it.
Ramblers like me could very well take over peoples walls, just like that vine I discovered in my garden the other day, but the thing is, these days people are fearful of the “read more” thing.
It’s just how life is.
I had one “friend” respond to a couple of my “read mores” by saying “God, post a novel why don’t you!”
I actually found this amusing, and deleted him from my friends list. If you have the concentration span of a gnat and it hurts your head to read another three sentences, then you shouldn’t be on my list.
We’re becoming incapable of reading more than a two sentences at a time, if that, because our brains are becoming trained to only absorb tiny bits of information because we are so used to it what with text messages and twitter and….well, facebook.
It’s like music.
Throughout the years we have become trained to expect that a song will last approximately three and a half minutes…..when we come across the RARE, six minute epic, our brains switch off because of this radio airplay conditioning.
It’s the same with movie lengths….They figure it all out, and they cater to our attention spans.
Or maybe as a society we are just becoming more and more shallow?
I often wonder about this.
Are we humans evolving in this technological world to become a shallower, more self absorbed version of beings?
Certainly, as I have mentioned before, with mobile phones and all these other technological gadgets that most people are constantly busy with, simple things like having random face to face conversations with strangers in public places are becoming a thing of the past.
People just LOOK so self absorbed these days. Insular. Wrapped in their tight little bubbles of texting and playing with whatever “I” thing they happen to have in their hands.
It makes me really sad to see this disconnect happening….growing….
The other day I watched a documentary about social networks, bullies and trolls.
Talk about an eye opener.
Not (sadly) the bullying that goes on. A modern day technological tragedy in itself, but this documentary opened my eyes to a much more sick and sinister aspect of this pandora’s box we’ve opened called the “internet”.
There are people, it seems, who deliberately scour facebook for RIP sites, with the sole purpose of leaving the most disgusting, vile, incomprehensibly cruel comments for the bereaved family members and friends of the deceased to read.
Some of the things mentioned, for example, was the story of one teenager who hanged himself after being bullied on facebook, and these trolls defaced his image by putting a noose around his neck and posting incredibly offensive comments about his suicide and posted it to the RIP page.
Another was of a boy, on a school excursion, killed by a polar bear….Somebody had posted a picture of a Polar bear with a mangled corpse (I’m not even sure if it was human) with a caption of the boys name and “Nom om om” below.
This new breed of perverted and depraved “people” that technology is giving a voice to makes me feel sick to the core.
What’s more I think facebook itself should be held accountable for at least part of this situation. It seems they are confused as to what images should be deemed as “offensive”.
Freedom of speech, and all that…….bullshit!
And it IS bullshit, when you consider that images of breastfeeding mothers can be deleted (From facebook…I’m SURE this has happened there) because they are “offensive.”
Frankly…I wouldn’t be putting RIP pages on FACEBOOK, to begin with, but there you go, we’ve dug this hole for ourselves. This trap of thinking it’s a “social” network.
After watching this disturbing documentary I wondered to myself….
Is compassion something we are born with, part of our human makeup? Or is it something we are taught, from our parents?
As my husband said, I agree that it IS something that is part of being a human being, but it is nourished, perhaps to a large degree, by parental nurturing.
And this is where I feel part of the problem lies.
I think parental nurturing and the nourishment of all these good societal values and morals, has quite frankly, gone down the drain.
Oh, I could rant for hours on this subject….A number of factors, I believe.
Not just parents are to blame though….but society itself.
The defining lines of decency and “for the good of the community as a whole” aspect have changed.
We’ve allowed them to change.
So perhaps we’re all to blame.
Anyway, that’s a rant for another time.
Right now though, I am seriously questioning all of these so call social networking sites and wondering about the true value of them, in MY life.